You have a busy life, right? Kids, work, hobbies, friends, family … and somewhere down the line you stopped dating your partner.
You can’t remember exactly when you both decided you preferred staying in with your pyjamas on, or catching up on some well needed sleep, or even hanging out with your other friends, over quality time with your sweetie.
And even though it’s not like it was one of you making the decision, slowly, because you’re not making time for each other the thought slipped in ‘maybe he/she doesn’t want to hang out and have fun, just the two of us’, or ‘maybe we’ll pick it up again once the kids don’t need us so much’.
Wrong .. A university of Virginia report says date nights ‘play an important role in strengthening the quality and stability of these contemporary relationships and marriages.’ The report finds that ‘couples who devote time specifically to one another at least once a week are markedly more likely to enjoy high-quality relationships and lower divorce rates, compared to couples who do not devote much couple time to one another.’
There are at least five reasons why this is true:
1. Communication – by removing distractions like kids and work a couple has the chance to discuss things that are important to them and reconnect
2. Novelty – it’s easy for a relationship to get stale when you’re both stuck in the daily grind; the chance to try something new together returns to the excitement and fun of a new relationship
3. Passion – seeing your partner sprucing up just for you and spending time being romantically close can help keep the sexual spark alive
4. Commitment – a weekly date night signals to each other, as well as family and friends, that a couple take spending time together seriously and are committed to making the effort needed to sustain their committed relationship
5. De-Stressing – modern life has so many stresses, from work and family to the state of global warming, and this can take a toll on a couple’s ability to work together constructively; taking time out together is vital to reducing stress and providing emotional support
So how the ##### do you manage to do something together that’s not dinner and a date every week on a limited budget? And what do we talk about when we do fancy catching a bite? Don’t worry, I’ll be posting my tips for low cost date nights, as well as some great conversation starters for couples (or anyone) shortly.
As always I’d love to hear what you think about date night. Have you tried it? Get in touch ..