I’m thinking you’re probably right in the middle of the Christmas whirl right now, school holidays, treats, parties, and all that wrapping ahead of you!! But don’t forget there are other ways to give at Christmas, and couples who are altruistic can often be more satisfied in their couple relationship, plus it’s an opportunity to spend time together, what’s to lose?!
So take some time out of your busy schedule, switch off the TV and talk with your sweetie about how you’d both like to give back in the coming year .. if time’s an issue but you’re cash rich how about setting up a monthly direct debit from your joint account to a charity you decide on together?
Or volunteer as a couple for a project, cleaning up your local beach or park, helping out with the National Trust (you can actually get free membership for being a volunteer) .. the possibilities are endless .. and you get to keep the warm Christmas glow for the whole year!!!
And for those of you yet to meet your sweetie, what a great opportunity to meet like-minded people!
What did you do, let me know in the Comments below, or tweet me!
Christmas and New Year is a time for partying and family, and also a time for reflection and taking stock, making plans and starting afresh ..
Today take some time to think about which of your friends and family support you in your relationship, who listens to you without judgement when you need to talk, who refuses to take sides and who’s not afraid to tell you gently when you might just (gulp) be in the wrong .. cultivate these people and do your best to do the same for them in your turn in the coming year ..
It takes two to make love, but a whole community to keep the flame alive ..
Sometimes it’s tempting to take the good things for granted and only focus on the things your honey does wrong .. they know you love them right??
Wrong .. research shows that to feel positive in their relationship couples need an average ratio of 5 positive for every one negative interaction .. that means in order for your relationship to thrive you need to get working on those positives .. so notice your partner’s successes, and those of the two of you, and take time to celebrate them today ..
Yeah yeah, been there done that .. but gratitude and appreciation is one of the single most important indicators of a relationship’s success .. so today think of all the things you’re grateful to your sweetie for, pick one and let them know how much you appreciate it, and them being in your life ..
Today I invite you to fix something around the home or office. Especially things that would make a difference to your loved ones.
Maybe you could hang a picture that’s been leant up against the wall for a year; sew those pesky trouser hems up; back up your spouse’s computer; oil that squeaky door or check your honey’s car is all ready for the cold weather, with de-icer, screenwash, a shovel, snacks, water and an extra warm blanket in case of getting stuck in the snow.
Nothing is more meaningful than when we take the time to write something out .. so today write your sweetie exactly how you feel and put it somewhere they’ll find it later .. in the fridge, stuck to their toothbrush or even on the remote!
Get creative, and spread the love ..
Take just six seconds today to share a kiss or a hug with your sweetie .. and consider doing this every day .. 6 seconds that will bring you closer and help to grow your love are highlighted by the Gottman Institute as something that can increase closeness and make you more mindful of your honey