Relationships Advent Calendar Day 24 . Find Your Airlock

I’m assuming most people are going to be slap bang in the middle of the last day of holiday preparation today .. last minute cards to drop off, ticking items off your to do list, some will still be at work .. and it’s tricky to move instantly from that ‘doing’ state of mind to the ‘feeling’ one we value at home .. so today take 5 minutes to work out what helps you make that transition, maybe a shower when you get home, a run, a 10 minute sit down with a cup of something calming after the kids are in bed, or a 5 minute stretch ..

When you’ve found your ‘airlock’ don’t forget your sweetie .. instead of passing them the baby as soon as they walk in the door because you’re tired (and covered in dried baby rice) give them a big kiss, and some time to decompress when they get home ..

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Relationships Advent Calendar Day 23 . Make an Inventory

So as we know from the kids’ school show Mary and Joseph went to Bethlehem for the census .. and today, because advent is a time for taking stock, I’d like you to start a mental tally chart of the good things in your life, and how many are possible because of the love and support of your partner.

Keep adding whenever you think of one today and watch that list grow .. it feels good to know you’re not dependent or independent of each other .. but inter-dependent, two people who support and appreciate each other.

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Relationships Advent Calendar Day 20 . Switch on your Relationship Radar

You’ve just spent 19 days doing something every day for the benefit of your relationship .. notice a difference yet? So now you’re a super honed relationship athlete in tip top condition it’s time to start looking for opportunities to flex those muscles ..

Keep your eyes and ears open for the many small opportunities that come up today to make a difference, and see how many you take .. send me your scores by commenting on this post, or on Twitter or Facebook if you prefer .. a relationship Christmas star for the winner!

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Relationships Advent Calendar Day 19 . Admit When You’re Wrong

This post follows on from yesterday’s, where I dared to suggest you just might be wrong sometimes (surely not!?) .. relationships thrive where both partners can give a little ground sometimes, and let’s face it, who doesn’t like to be right?

Today your task is to find something your sweetie is right about, give them a big beaming smile and let them know, with grace and love .. afterwards spend some time thinking about how easy or difficult it was to do that, and how your partner reacted .. what did you learn?

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Relationships Advent Calendar Day 18 . Who’s in your Corner?

Christmas and New Year is a time for partying and family, and also a time for reflection and taking stock, making plans and starting afresh ..

Today take some time to think about which of your friends and family support you in your relationship, who listens to you without judgement when you need to talk, who refuses to take sides and who’s not afraid to tell you gently when you might just (gulp) be in the wrong .. cultivate these people and do your best to do the same for them in your turn in the coming year ..

It takes two to make love, but a whole community to keep the flame alive ..

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Relationships Advent Calendar Day 1 . Forgive for 5 minutes

Happy December!!

Today is about preparing the ground for the month ahead. Holding on to hurt from the past can prevent us from enjoying our present .. so today take some time to think about someone who hurt you in the past, breathe deeply and send them forgiveness for 5 straight minutes. #adventcalendar

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Christmas-proof your relationship

“Advent is the perfect time to clear and prepare the Way. Advent is a winter training camp for those who desire peace.” – Edward Hays

adventTomorrow is the start of December, and it’s so easy at this very special time of year to get caught up with the chores of Christmas, making sure everyone in the family is happy: the cards, the gifts, the cooking .. and put our couple relationship on the back burner till the New Year.

Christmas is a wonderful time, but sometimes the stress can take its toll on our relationships, with many couples seeking counselling after the holiday season, when stress, the family, disappointed expectations (and one too many Baileys) have resulted in relationship melt-down.

December is a great time to take stock of your relationship, and to make sure loving each other is part of the run up to Christmas. So here’s my Relationship Advent Calendar”, a great way to build acts of love into each day from December 1st, as my seasonal gift to you.

And if you haven’t met your sweetie yet ..  you’re still warmly invited to take part .. use this time to practise the actions I suggest on your friends and family.

So, what’s a “Relationship Advent Calendar?

Subscribe to the blog, follow me on Twitter or Facebook and & get 25 acts of love delivered to your inbox each day, starting tomorrow December 1!

A lot of advent calendars are about getting, but this one’s all about giving, because in a relationship we give to receive. Every day in December until Christmas, I’ll reveal a new action to build and sustain your couple relationship.

Want to be reminded of a daily act of love this season? Follow the blog, my tweets or Like my Facebook page and they’ll be delivered direct to you each day.

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