Relationships Advent Calendar Day 24 . Find Your Airlock

I’m assuming most people are going to be slap bang in the middle of the last day of holiday preparation today .. last minute cards to drop off, ticking items off your to do list, some will still be at work .. and it’s tricky to move instantly from that ‘doing’ state of mind to the ‘feeling’ one we value at home .. so today take 5 minutes to work out what helps you make that transition, maybe a shower when you get home, a run, a 10 minute sit down with a cup of something calming after the kids are in bed, or a 5 minute stretch ..

When you’ve found your ‘airlock’ don’t forget your sweetie .. instead of passing them the baby as soon as they walk in the door because you’re tired (and covered in dried baby rice) give them a big kiss, and some time to decompress when they get home ..

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Relationships Advent Calendar Day 23 . Make an Inventory

So as we know from the kids’ school show Mary and Joseph went to Bethlehem for the census .. and today, because advent is a time for taking stock, I’d like you to start a mental tally chart of the good things in your life, and how many are possible because of the love and support of your partner.

Keep adding whenever you think of one today and watch that list grow .. it feels good to know you’re not dependent or independent of each other .. but inter-dependent, two people who support and appreciate each other.

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Relationships Advent Calendar Day 12 . Share a 6 Second Kiss

Take just six seconds today to share a kiss or a hug with your sweetie .. and consider doing this every day .. 6 seconds that will bring you closer and help to grow your love are highlighted by the Gottman Institute as something that can increase closeness and make you more mindful of your honey

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Relationships Advent Calendar Day 11 . Be Kind to our World

Today, widen your focus and do something to give back to this beautiful world we live in, pick up some litter, pop some money in a collecting tin or bag up some unwanted possessions in good condition for your local charity shop, save energy by having a short shower (after that yummy long bath you had yesterday), turn the lights off and have an early night with your sweetie ..

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Christmas-proof your relationship

“Advent is the perfect time to clear and prepare the Way. Advent is a winter training camp for those who desire peace.” – Edward Hays

adventTomorrow is the start of December, and it’s so easy at this very special time of year to get caught up with the chores of Christmas, making sure everyone in the family is happy: the cards, the gifts, the cooking .. and put our couple relationship on the back burner till the New Year.

Christmas is a wonderful time, but sometimes the stress can take its toll on our relationships, with many couples seeking counselling after the holiday season, when stress, the family, disappointed expectations (and one too many Baileys) have resulted in relationship melt-down.

December is a great time to take stock of your relationship, and to make sure loving each other is part of the run up to Christmas. So here’s my Relationship Advent Calendar”, a great way to build acts of love into each day from December 1st, as my seasonal gift to you.

And if you haven’t met your sweetie yet ..  you’re still warmly invited to take part .. use this time to practise the actions I suggest on your friends and family.

So, what’s a “Relationship Advent Calendar?

Subscribe to the blog, follow me on Twitter or Facebook and & get 25 acts of love delivered to your inbox each day, starting tomorrow December 1!

A lot of advent calendars are about getting, but this one’s all about giving, because in a relationship we give to receive. Every day in December until Christmas, I’ll reveal a new action to build and sustain your couple relationship.

Want to be reminded of a daily act of love this season? Follow the blog, my tweets or Like my Facebook page and they’ll be delivered direct to you each day.

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Are you excited about this advent project? Do get in touch using the Comments box below or my Contacts details to the right of your screen .. happy adventing!