Thank you for being part of my Relationships Advent Calendar, I hope you’ve had as much fun joining in the fun as I’ve had making it ..
I’ve been inspired along the way by the penguins at noomi, whose Kindness Advent Calendar I follow every year, so check that out too.
And today of course is a day for family so I’m off to spend a peaceful day with mine .. wishing you a love-filled day close to your special ones ..
I’m assuming most people are going to be slap bang in the middle of the last day of holiday preparation today .. last minute cards to drop off, ticking items off your to do list, some will still be at work .. and it’s tricky to move instantly from that ‘doing’ state of mind to the ‘feeling’ one we value at home .. so today take 5 minutes to work out what helps you make that transition, maybe a shower when you get home, a run, a 10 minute sit down with a cup of something calming after the kids are in bed, or a 5 minute stretch ..
When you’ve found your ‘airlock’ don’t forget your sweetie .. instead of passing them the baby as soon as they walk in the door because you’re tired (and covered in dried baby rice) give them a big kiss, and some time to decompress when they get home ..
So as we know from the kids’ school show Mary and Joseph went to Bethlehem for the census .. and today, because advent is a time for taking stock, I’d like you to start a mental tally chart of the good things in your life, and how many are possible because of the love and support of your partner.
Keep adding whenever you think of one today and watch that list grow .. it feels good to know you’re not dependent or independent of each other .. but inter-dependent, two people who support and appreciate each other.
Take just six seconds today to share a kiss or a hug with your sweetie .. and consider doing this every day .. 6 seconds that will bring you closer and help to grow your love are highlighted by the Gottman Institute as something that can increase closeness and make you more mindful of your honey
Today, widen your focus and do something to give back to this beautiful world we live in, pick up some litter, pop some money in a collecting tin or bag up some unwanted possessions in good condition for your local charity shop, save energy by having a short shower (after that yummy long bath you had yesterday), turn the lights off and have an early night with your sweetie ..
It’s not all about your other half, take some time out, buy yourself something lush, or luxuriate in the bath with some bubbles ..
Surprise your sweetie .. with breakfast in bed, do a chore for them, a surprise gift, a night out/in ..